bcachefs: Really don't hold btree locks while btree IOs are in flight

bcachefs: Really don't hold btree locks while btree IOs are in flight

This is something we've attempted to stick to for quite some time, as it
helps guarantee filesystem latency - but there's a few remaining paths
that this patch fixes.

This is also necessary for an upcoming patch to update btree pointers
after every btree write - since the btree write completion path will now
be doing btree operations.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>