e1000e: Fix HW Error on es2lan, ARP capture issue by BMC

e1000e: Fix HW Error on es2lan, ARP capture issue by BMC

Several components to this complex fix. The es2lan cards occasionally
gave a "HW Error" especially when forcing speed. Some users also
reported that the BMC stole ARP packets.

The fixes include setting the proper SW_FW bits to tell the BMC
that we're active and not do any un-initialization at all, so the
setup routine is largely changed.

Signed-off-by: David Graham <david.graham@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Auke Kok <auke-jan.h.kok@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jeff Garzik <jgarzik@redhat.com>