qht: return existing entry when qht_insert fails

qht: return existing entry when qht_insert fails

The meaning of "existing" is now changed to "matches in hash and
ht->cmp result". This is saner than just checking the pointer value.

Suggested-by: Richard Henderson <richard.henderson@linaro.org>
Reviewed-by:  Richard Henderson <richard.henderson@linaro.org>
Reviewed-by: Alex Bennée <alex.bennee@linaro.org>
Signed-off-by: Emilio G. Cota <cota@braap.org>
Signed-off-by: Richard Henderson <richard.henderson@linaro.org>