bcachefs: Subvol dirents are now only visible in parent subvol

bcachefs: Subvol dirents are now only visible in parent subvol

This changes the on disk format for dirents that point to subvols so
that they also record the subvolid of the parent subvol, so that we can
filter them out in other subvolumes.

This also updates the dirent code to do that filtering, and in
particular tweaks the rename code - we need to ensure that there's only
ever one dirent (counting multiplicities in different snapshots) that
point to a subvolume.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>