bcachefs: Re-implement extent merging in transaction commit path

bcachefs: Re-implement extent merging in transaction commit path

We haven't had extent merging in quite some time. It used to be done by
the btree code when sorting btree nodes, but that was eliminated as part
of the work to separate extent handling from core btree code.

This patch re-implements extent merging in the transaction commit path.
We don't currently have the ability to merge reflink pointers, we need
to do some work on the triggers code to be able to do that without
ending up with incorrect refcounts.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>