bcachefs: Move deletion of refcount=0 indirect extents to their triggers

bcachefs: Move deletion of refcount=0 indirect extents to their triggers

For backpointers, we need to switch the order triggers are run in: we
need to run triggers for deletions/overwrites before triggers for
inserts.

To avoid breaking the reflink triggers, this patch moves deleting of
indirect extents with refcount=0 to their triggers, instead of doing it
when we update those keys.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>