vhost-user-scsi: support reconnect to backend

vhost-user-scsi: support reconnect to backend

If the backend crashes and restarts, the device is broken.
This patch adds reconnect for vhost-user-scsi.

This patch also improves the error messages, and reports some silent errors.

Tested with spdk backend.

Signed-off-by: Li Feng <fengli@smartx.com>
Message-Id: <20231009044735.941655-4-fengli@smartx.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Manos Pitsidianakis <manos.pitsidianakis@linaro.org>