bcachefs: Don't read existing stripes synchronously in write path

bcachefs: Don't read existing stripes synchronously in write path

Previously, in the stripe creation path, when reusing an existing stripe
we'd read the existing stripe synchronously - ouch.

Now, we allocate two stripe bufs if we're using an existing stripe, so
that we can do the read asynchronously - and, we read the full stripe so
that we can run recovery, if necessary.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>