bcachefs: Always use percpu_ref_tryget_live() on c->writes

bcachefs: Always use percpu_ref_tryget_live() on c->writes

If we're trying to get a ref and the refcount has been killed, it means
we're doing an emergency shutdown - we always want tryget_live().

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>