vfio: Add helper to search vfio_device in a dev_set

vfio: Add helper to search vfio_device in a dev_set

There are drivers that need to search vfio_device within a given dev_set.
e.g. vfio-pci. So add a helper.

vfio_pci_is_device_in_set() now returns -EBUSY in commit a882c16a2b7e
("vfio/pci: Change vfio_pci_try_bus_reset() to use the dev_set") where
it was trying to preserve the return of vfio_pci_try_zap_and_vma_lock_cb().
However, it makes more sense to return -ENODEV.

Suggested-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>
Tested-by: Yanting Jiang <yanting.jiang@intel.com>
Tested-by: Terrence Xu <terrence.xu@intel.com>
Tested-by: Zhenzhong Duan <zhenzhong.duan@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Yi Liu <yi.l.liu@intel.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230718105542.4138-8-yi.l.liu@intel.com
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>