bcachefs: New erasure coding shutdown path

bcachefs: New erasure coding shutdown path

This implements a new shutdown path for erasure coding, which is needed
for the upcoming BCH_WRITE_WAIT_FOR_EC write path.

The process is:
 - Cancel new stripes being built up
 - Close out/cancel open buckets on write points or the partial list
   that are for stripes
 - Shutdown rebalance/copygc
 - Then wait for in flight new stripes to finish

With BCH_WRITE_WAIT_FOR_EC, move ops will be waiting on stripes to fill
up before they complete; the new ec shutdown path is needed for shutting
down copygc/rebalance without deadlocking.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>