bcachefs: Shutdown path improvements

bcachefs: Shutdown path improvements

We're seeing occasional firings of the assertion in the key cache
shutdown code that nr_dirty == 0, which means we must sometimes be doing
transaction commits after we've gone read only.

Cleanups & changes:
 - BCH_FS_ALLOC_CLEAN renamed to BCH_FS_CLEAN_SHUTDOWN
 - new helper bch2_btree_interior_updates_flush(), which returns true if
   it had to wait
 - bch2_btree_flush_writes() now also returns true if there were btree
   writes in flight
 - __bch2_fs_read_only now checks if btree writes were in flight in the
   shutdown loop: btree write completion does a transaction update, to
   update the pointer in the parent node
 - assert that !BCH_FS_CLEAN_SHUTDOWN in __bch2_trans_commit

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>