net/smc: adapt cursor update when sndbuf and peer DMB are merged

net/smc: adapt cursor update when sndbuf and peer DMB are merged

If the local sndbuf shares the same physical memory with peer DMB,
the cursor update processing needs to be adapted to ensure that the
data to be consumed won't be overwritten.

So in this case, the fin_curs and sndbuf_space that were originally
updated after sending the CDC message should be modified to not be
update until the peer updates cons_curs.

Signed-off-by: Wen Gu <guwen@linux.alibaba.com>
Reviewed-by: Wenjia Zhang <wenjia@linux.ibm.com>
Reviewed-and-tested-by: Jan Karcher <jaka@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>