bcachefs: Fix lock ordering with new btree cache code

bcachefs: Fix lock ordering with new btree cache code

The code that checks lock ordering was recently changed to go off of the
pos of the btree node, rather than the iterator, but the btree cache
code didn't update to handle iterators that point to cached bkeys. Oops

Also, update various debug code.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>