vhost-user: don't merge regions with different fds

vhost-user: don't merge regions with different fds

vhost currently merges regions with contiguious virtual and physical
addresses.  This breaks for vhost-user since that also needs fds to
match.

Add a vhost_ops entry to compare the fds for vhost-user only.

Cc: qemu-stable@nongnu.org
Cc: Victor Kaplansky <victork@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>